If you’re reading this article, there’s a strong chance that you or someone you care about is having a challenging time. Having a stable life is essential to your happiness and fulfilment. It seems natural to presume that we should all somehow have a ‘stable life’ by default, and when we don’t, we begin to wonder whether there might be something wrong with us.
The truth is, that creating a stable life is a skill. It’s a recipe, much like baking a cake or keeping your finances in check. This article draws on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs to offer five tips on creating a more stable emotional life.
Having a stable sense of home is imperative. This doesn’t have to be a fancy property, it can be a room in a shared house, or even a trailer, as long as you feel safe, independent and at peace. This should be your “safe place” that you feel comfortable and grounded in. The well known saying “tidy house tidy mind” is true when it comes to creating stability - if you have a clean, tidy, and well organised home this has a significant effect on your emotional health and wellbeing.
Furthermore, your sense of ‘home’ goes beyond bricks and mortar, it’s a sense of certainty that the rug isn’t going to be pulled under from you. As an example, if you’re dealing with a legal challenge, be that with your business, or even something you may have to get a criminal law firm, such as villages criminal defense, involved in - this can be a very stressful and destabilising time; because there is so much uncertainty. When you feel you are having to fight to clear your name your life can feel very unsettled. Therefore, the feeling of home could better be described as a feeling of certainty and security; that everything is going to be alright - a shelter from the storm.
You don’t need to be rich in order to be stable. You do, however have to have an income. Whether this is a full-time job, a part-time job, or even welfare benefits - there needs to be a secure and reliable income that comes from a secure and non-emotionally dependent source; meaning nobody has undue influence and control over your financial stability.
Similarly, you need to feel on top of your finances, even if it’s the case that you’re getting back on the path to repairing your credit.
HEALTH & WELLBEING
Your health is your foundation. You can have all the money in the world, a beautiful home, and great relationships - but without your health, life has a tendency to feel very unstable. The term “prevention is better than cure” is true when it comes to having stability, as when you know you are keeping on top of looking after yourself, you feel more positive and stable about the future.
“No man is an island” and when it comes to finding stability, a supportive network of caring friends is fundamental. However, sometimes, it can be the people in our life that cause our instability. It’s important to consider your relationships carefully and work out which relationships add to your sense of stability and which relationships destabilise you.
MINDSET & EMOTIONS
The thoughts that you think create the feelings you feel, and at times, it can feel like you aren’t in control of your emotions but you decide where to focus your attention, and as the popular saying states “where attention goes energy flows”. This means that if you have a positive focus then you will attract more positive things whereas if you have a negative focus you will attract more negative circumstances. Meditation, and in particular mindfulness are great tools to help calm and balance the mind.